5 Rules for Guys How to Ask a Girl to Be Friends With Benefits

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Picture this: among your outer circle of friends, there’s this girl that you’ve been eyeing on for quite a while now. She’s insanely hot, is fun to be around, and is exactly your type. You’ve been somewhat close with her for quite some time now, and you’re looking to get even closer, but you don’t want any commitments - basically, you wanna fuck her.

But how exactly are you supposed to do that? In truth, it boils down to a couple of things - one, everything that has happened between you two before “asking”, and two, the asking itself. Knowing exactly how to ask a girl is very important, but what you’ve done with her until that point is very crucial, too.

So, if you want to take your friendship to the next level, here are some tips on how to “ask” that girl out for some good old-fashioned sexy time.

Before “Asking”

Now before you approach the girl, you gotta make sure that you’ve already got a good shot at succeeding. You can’t just walk up to Rebecca from down the street and ask her bluntly, even though all you’ve done with her was attend Bible study sessions back in elementary. There are very important factors that can greatly affect your chances, so pay attention.

1. You’re friends with her

This can sound like a no-brainer, but a lot of people still misuse the term “Friends with Benefits”. You actually have to be friends with them before initiating the relationship. If you’re looking to regularly have sex with someone you haven’t met before, then that’s considered a fuck buddy. Truth be told, these terms are very vague, so it’s understandable why they are often used interchangeably. Just pointing out a technicality here.

2. You’ve had sex before

Wait, what? Isn’t this the reason why you’re asking to become Friends with Benefits in the first place? Well, yes, but it’s not as simple as that. You see, we’re talking about Friends with Benefits here, and banging someone that you already know is very different from a hook up with a stranger on Tinder. You’ll have to first break down the barriers of a normal friendship to slide into FWB status.

And the best way to do that? Well, sex, of course! Now, you obviously shouldn’t try forcing it on someone you haven’t done it with. But chances are that the reason you’re even contemplating about “asking” in the first place is because you’ve already ended up going a bit too far with the girl (with a good chance that alcohol was involved). You can technically still shoot your shot even without this “bonus”, but the added sexual tension between you two helps a lot.


You’ll notice that up until this point, I’ve put quotation marks on “asking”. And that’s because, in truth, you don’t literally ASK the girl - in fact, you shouldn’t. This isn’t a business deal - you’ll most likely get rejected by how corporate-sounding you are. So how do you “ask”, you ask? You flirt.

First, invite them out to drink - this is the perfect place for hookups to happen. The next time you meet them, throw in subtle and not-so-subtle jokes about sex (if you had a one-night-stand with them this is where it comes in handy). Show your apparent interest in a casual relationship, especially with them - but not too obviously.

Once you think they get the message, and they look like they’re agreeing, you can start to act more aggressively, maybe with a kiss or something that just screams “let’s fuck”. If you’re successful, congratulations, you’ve got yourself a Friend With Benefits!

5 Friends with Benefits Rules for Guys to Get Laid

So, you’ve managed to find someone who’s willing to be more than just your average friend. It’s easy to get excited over the idea of a sexual partner with no strings attached, but that can come with many unprecedented risks.

In fact, many FWB relationships end early because someone in the relationship develops romantic feelings for the other. All that passionate sex might have been just a little TOO passionate, you know?

With these risks in mind, it’s important that you need to set ground rules before really hitting off your FWB relationships. Some of these rules may be blatantly obvious to some of you, while others may be rules you didn’t really expect you’d need until now.

1. Properly establish the relationship with your partner

There’s a good chance that you and your FWB were once no more than friends, and maybe a drunk night out clubbing or drinking awakened your inner desires for each other. If that’s the case, there’s also a good chance that you two aren’t really sure exactly WHAT your relationship is. Be sure to define what you want in your relationship with your partner before any confusion happens.

2. Don’t Treat Them Like a Romantic Partner

Remember, the entire point of the relationship is having no strings attached. So no dates, no dinners together, and nothing that can spark any romantic interest in one another. Acting overly affectionate can send the wrong message to your partner, which can quickly ruin the relationship.

3. Don’t Let Your Friends Know About Your Relationship

It can be tempting to brag about your new relationship with the boys, but doing so can turn things real bad real quick. You don’t want to have your FWB partner as part of your day-to-day life as much as possible, and letting friends know about them will just complicate things further.

4. Make sure you can end your relationship cleanly

This is more of a preemptive rule than one that you set with an existing FWB, but be sure to find someone that you can break away from smoothly. Don’t go and look for pleasure from your co-workers, neighbors, and especially your inner circle of friends. Because once you do end your relationship, prepare for extreme levels of awkwardness 24/7.

5. Be Groomed and Prepared

You’re in an FWB relationship purely for sex, so be sure to make it as enjoyable for you and your partner as much as possible. If they want you to shave and you’re willing, then shave, and please for the love of God, wash your genitals before getting it on. Also, always bring protection if you can, not just as an act of courtesy, but to make sure you don’t end up extending your relationship... indefinitely.

Getting into a Friends with Benefits relationship can be both exciting and confusing for the first time, so be sure to set these ground rules before you start turning that one-night stand into your weekly gig.

By Admin, Last Updated: May 1, 2023